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Hi Everyone, Sorry I have not been on the forum much recently, I have found things very difficult since losing my dad. I had lost track of time in the days looking after dad. It's only now I realise just how short a time dad had, having said that I would not have wanted him to suffer any more than he did already. It's been such a busy time too, clearing out his sheltered home: I went in with a job to do and cried on the way home at the enormity of what I was doing. I really feel dad would have been proud of everything, we did things HIS WAY and things were lovely. I went back to work last week, It was lovely to be back in the nursery, everyone was really kind and caring. I have moments when I fill up but on the whole I am managing really well. I am so looking forward to our get together in May, it will be lovely to put faces to names. Take care everyone. Lots of love Lorna xx 
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Hi Lorna,
Welcome back! I had been thinking about you and thought you were probably having a period of quiet reflection.
You can take comfort from the fact that you made your Dad's last few weeks very comfortable for him. I'm sure he would be very proud of the way you've coped. Don't worry about being tearful at times, just give in to it, it's all part of the grieving process.
Looking forward to more of your posts now you are back with us.
Love, Doreen xx
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hi Lorna,
welcome back.
there's no easy way to grieve is there .. but glad you have gone back to work which i'm sure will help you.
your Dad will have been very proud of you and hopefully that will give you comfort,
hope you are keeping well.
take care
Suzanne x
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Hi Lorna, It`s nice to see you back, but you have been having a hard time - I think once the funeral is over reality kicks in and your grieving starts properly. You did everything possible for your dad, so you can rest easy on that score. There will be many times you will find yourself "filling up," but that`s quite normal.Thirteen years on I still find myself on occasion thinking, "Oh, I must tell Mam about that." Work will keep your mind occupied, but be kind to yourself, and take care, Kathleen C x
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Hello Lorna - so nice to see you back. You have done so well to sort out your Dad's house and get back to work again. It will still hit you for a long while, especially as your Dad had such a short time, but hopefully it will get easier. Knowing you made his funeral such a special occasion must be a real comfort.
Hope your colleagues continue to support you and you stay as well as possible. Nice to hear from you again xx Ailsa
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Hi Lorna,
I can only re-iterate what others have said. Glad you feel like talking to us. Take care.
Julie x
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Same from me Lorna.
It's coming up to a year sinceI lost my dear old dad- I find myself in tears often- I often have moments when something reminds me of him.clearing out my parents' home last year was difficult too. I had a big wobbly moment last weekend, seeing the daffodils out in the sunny weather. Dad was a keen gardener and his garden was full of daffs tulips and irises. He lived in an old people's bungalow- we left the bulbs in and I take comfort from the fact that someone else will be able to enjoy them- it's what he woud have liked.
Thinking of you
Maria x
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Welcome back, Lorna. I have to admit that although it's 6 years since my Dad died, I still think I have seen him - maybe walking along the street or in a shop - and it always brings a tear or two. However, although I still miss him so much, I can now laugh and smile about the things we used to do together
Look forward to meeting you in May.
Love Jeanxxx
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Hello Lorna
Lovely to see you back posting again. I really hope with Summer on the horizon and weather
improving all the time it is good for our inner peace.
Your Dad would have been proud of you. Take care
Rose x
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Hello Dear Friends, It's now 4 weeks since dad passed away, it has been a roller coaster of emotions. I have found the last couple of weeks I have been totally exhausted, the tiredness is wearing me down. I keep getting told it is due to the enormity of what I have been through but much as I try to push on I have been unable to do so. I have been in bed very early most nights around 7.30 and slept right through until morning. Today however I spent lots of time in my garden and did little chores around the house and I have felt well and not tired at all today. I hope I am finally turning the corner from the tiredness, I do enjoy my garden. I feel nearer to dad out there as he also loved the garden. I have just re read all the lovely comments you all left for my family and it meant so much to have all your support at this very difficult time. I feel so sure my dad is around me, there are lots of little reminders of him and I have felt him so close many times. I go as often each day to call him, it's so sad I miss him so very much, but I have lots of lovely memories which help to ease the sadness I feel. Thank you all again. Lorna xx
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Hello Lorna
Thinking of you. You may not belieive me but time is a good healer. x
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Glad you have found some comfort doing something you both enjoyed Lorna. My friend bought a lovely flowering cherry as a way of giving this time of year a 'positive' feel when her Mum died some years ago. When the blossoms are out it reminds her of the good times in all the years and not just the pain of the last couple of months. Maybe you could plant something in memory of your Dad?
Sorry you have been so exhausted - but it is understandable. Give yourself time to rest and sleep when you need to. It will ease up and life will get back to a new normal for you, but you have used up so much emotional energy and physical energy that it will take time to replace.
Thinking of you xx Ailsa
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Lorna
It is lovely to see you posting again. You obviously had a wonderful relationship with your Dad and it is good that you are gaining comfort from your garden and feeling him around you. You need to take time to grieve properly as pushing your feelings away will not help you in the long run. Thinking of you and your family.
Take care.
Jackie
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Lorna I am pleased you are back.
It must be so so painful right now- I think when something good happens and you go to ring them it hits you all over again. One poorly handed stroke to another set of hurty hands across cyber space from me.
Im so so sorry for your loss. But pleased, ever so pleased you feel up to posting again
Love
Jenni xxhow to be a velvet bulldoser
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